Read that article about body policing and shaming women with tattoos, and then please send an email to the author, lisa.khoury@ubspectrum.com , with your input about what it’s like to be a woman with tattoos and what makes you a “classy” or “elegant” lady… because according to Lisa Khoury if you have tattoos you are trashy and don’t respect yourself and will never impress a man.
Because, you know, that’s what counts in life!If you’re a dude with or without tattoos but who likes women with tattoos I encourage you to write to her as well and let her know that not all men are interested in “classy” as per her definition.
I’m so sickened by this. You should reblog it too, so other people with tattoos can speak up.
Email her: lisa.khoury@ubspectrum.com
I don’t have any tattoos (yet), but those of you ladies who do should do this !
grinding. my. teeth. reading. this.
My problems with this article aren’t even necessarily about tattoos. This is just blatant sexism influenced by religion.
Guys drool over us. We hold some serious power in our hands, because – as corny as this sounds – we hold the world’s beauty…women hold the world’s class and elegance in their hands,
Right, because the only way a woman can be powerful is by using her looks to affect men, but turning herself into nothing more than a sex object. And everyone knows men can’t have class and elegance. No, of course not. Men can just drool. Brilliant.
An elegant woman does not vandalize the temple she has been blessed with as her body.
You want to think of your body as a temple, sure, go ahead, run with that metaphor. Ever notice that the greatest temples tend to be beautifully adorned? Have you been inside a cathedral? Have you even seen a mosque? They’re fucking gorgeous and totally covered in ornamentation. If you want to argue against permanent decoration, that temple metaphor isn’t working for you.
She appreciates [her body]. She flaunts it. She’s not happy with it? She goes to the gym. She dresses it up in lavish, fun, trendy clothes, enjoying trips to the mall with her girlfriends. She accentuates her legs with high heels. She gets her nails done. She enjoys the finer things in life, all with the body she was blessed with.
This just irks me to no end. The idea that beauty = a gym-sculpted body and trendy clothes is not only oppressive to women, it’s oppressive to all genders and downright degrading for anyone of above average intelligence. It also just contributes to a capitalistic mentality. Now, there’s nothing wrong with going to the gym, shopping with friends, wearing heels, and getting one’s nails done if that’s what you’re into. Frankly, I find very little appealing about “fun, trendy clothes.” Being in malls makes me hate everyone. My girlfriends are not the type of people who would want to spend all day shopping. My girlfriends are the type of people who come with me to a tattoo parlor, and then make cocktails, and they’re the classiest women I know. Don’t wear heels because they “accentuate your legs.” Wear heels because it makes you feel fucking fabulous knowing you could kill someone with your shoes if you wanted to. A stiletto is first and foremost a knife. Do not forget this fact.
A more productive use of your time would be improving and appreciating the body you have been given, not permanently engraving it.
Permanently engraving it is improving and appreciating my body.
Can you get meaning out of a tattoo?
Yes, and most people do.
At the end of the day, are you really a happier person?
Very much so.
Has this tattoo, for instance, caused you to learn something new about yourself?
Yes. What do you think these are, stickers chosen at random?
Has it challenged you?
Yes.
Has it led you to self-growth?
Definitely.
Nothing comes out of getting a tattoo. You get a tattoo, and that’s it. You do something productive, though, and you see results. That’s a genuine, satisfying change in life. Not ink.
And what might you suggest as “productive”?
Invest your time, money, and effort into a gym membership, or yoga classes, or new clothes, or experimenting with different hairstyles.
This article completely misses the point of tattoos. They means something different to everyone, but I have yet to meet anyone who decided to get a tattoo to “improve their body” the way anyone else would decide to go shopping. Doesn’t work like that. I’m not saying a tattoo has to be a religious experience and every tattoo has to be super important and have some really special and personal meaning, but that pretty frequently is the case. Totally fine if it isn’t, but great if it is.
This article is called ”Why Put a Bumper Sticker on a Ferrari?” A tattoo is a far cry from a bumper sticker. You do nothing but belittle yourself to make such a comparison. Furthermore, why would I ever want to think of my body as a Ferrari? That simply implies that my body is fast, expensive, and desired by men in the midst of a mid-life crisis. Not exactly how I want to think of myself.
God knows the last thing this world needs is another generation of kids questioning their basic values and morals.
Morals and values have nothing to do with tattoos. Something they do have to do with is healthy body-image and an understanding of outdated gender roles. Those are the kinds of morals and values I choose to teach my children. My children will question everything. They will value independence and free-thinking. They will value art and expression. Their morals will be rooted in their own opinions of what it means to be a good person. Their morals will involve helping to teach those whose view of the world is limited by prejudice. God doesn’t know shit.
My tattoos are my favorite parts of my body. They took years of consideration, and, in the case of one, years of depression and self-injury, followed by years of therapy and medication, accompanied by friends who quite literally saved my life. You don’t just “get a tattoo, and that’s it.” The experience of getting a tattoo can be incredible. Memorable, to say the least. An artist who did one of mine said he became a tattoo artist because getting tattooed is a really powerful experience and he wanted to give that to other people. And it doesn’t stop there. Part of the beauty of tattoos is their permanence. Some of the best conversations I’ve had have been inspired by tattoos. I’ve gotten to know people because of their tattoos. I’ve been stopped on the street because of mine. And you know why? Not because someone with a warped sense of dignity wanted to tell me I’m a classless, valueless, moral-less woman, but because someone wanted to tell me my tattoos are beautiful. They want to know the stories behind them, my reason for getting them, what they mean to me. There are beautiful, elegant, classy women with tattoos, some of whom completely fit into typical gender roles, and who love going shopping for fun and trendy clothes. Hell, there are beautiful, elegant, classy men with tattoos who do that! The main point is that no human should ever be judged by whether or not they fit a certain person’s idea of beauty and gender.
THANK YOU CHELSEA
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Wow what a fucking retard.
I already e-mailed that cunt days ago. No response of course, but I gave her a rather large piece of my mind.
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